RH Files Index - forgiveness

I’ve recently been hurt by a now ex-partner who acted in a way that completely altered how I viewed him, myself, and the last year of love we’ve shared. I’ve been sick with rage and physically exhausted, and my mind just keeps racing over the smallest details of our history and revising them under a new lens, or painting vivid scenes of his act of betrayal and torturing myself with them. Today, I realised that my anger and sadness have been poisoning everything for me, have left me bed-ridden and unmotivated, and it’s taking a toll. I figure that ultimately forgiveness will be the best thing for me to heal and move forward, but it seems like it will be a tough process and I still can’t help but to ruminate on the injustice of the situation. I also have been considering how my behaviour could have brought the situation on, but it seems difficult to reconcile that with the cruelty and, perhaps even worse, indifference that I have endured. So I want to ask you, what are your thoughts on forgiveness, and how do you go about forgiving?

BILL @ Issue no. 272

The Truth is that I betrayed the very essence of my soul and No knowledge can heal that wound. Is like constantly moving in the fog with nowhere to go or be. I just can’t forgive myself.

THOMAS @ Issue no. 175

How do you forgive somebody whom you love very much but has done something truly terrible?

MEL @ Issue no. 58